Wednesday, July 28, 2010
I think that my girlfriend (let's call her "Deana", not her real name) felt the same way. After a lifetime full of accomplishments, amazing experiences, a marriage, and I'm sure some exciting love affairs as well, I'm sure that she was excited to be involved with someone who seemed to enjoy spanking just as much as she did.
I say "presumed" because, to be honest with you, we NEVER talked about it with each other. Sure, we DID it just fine, and I of course never turned down the opportunity to give her a spanking. We would talk and joke about other aspects of our sex life, and I am sure that I made it clear through my actions that I loved spanking her, but the subject was never breached. In hindsight, our relationship could have been so much better (and there could have been even more and better spankings) if both of us had developed the courage to simply be honest about how we felt.
Even today I wonder, why was I so shy about it? Clearly I had a passion for spanking, and so did she. Once I got beyond the initial shyness and my reluctance to give her too much pain during a spanking, you would think that we would have openly discussed it at length. We certainly discussed other important topics and did so without embarassment or shame.
There is a set of e-books circulating in the spanko community that presumably teach the readers how to give a spanking, and how to ask for and receive one. I haven't read them yet, but I hear that they are excellent. Not surprising since the author of the books has one of the best spanking blogs on the internet. I wish that such books would have been available to me many years ago, and I think younger people are lucky to have information like that available.